[excerpt from “Love’s Rebuttal”]

So I had an epiphany walking to the parking lot at school this morning. I found the wording I thought I didn’t possess in yesterday’s entry.

Topher, as I mentioned last, stated that “Unrequited love is the only true love.” And I would agree to a certain point- that one has quite a bit to learn from unrequited love.

In fact, due to my past history with guys, I thought I knew all too well that unrequited love was a deeper sense of love. That there was a sick enjoyment derived from “the chase.” That there is a masochistic sense of pleasure from the tragety. To add to that, “the catch” was so far out of reach that it wasn’t a possibility, and therefore not a goal.

Personally, I relish in “suspense.”

But, I digress. Referring to Topher’s entry….

If in unrequited love do you gain insight and knowledge… if in unrequited love you learn lessons in relationships and in your mistakes… then when do you get to apply such cognition?

I think if anything, having “love” reciprocated, that one can apply what one has learned from past faults.

In my humble opinion, “love” returned isn’t as simple as thought.

Is it wrong of me to think that one has to “work” at keeping someone to love them? Or maybe me stating that, that it rules out the possibility of “true love in acceptance.” Maybe that it’s still cynical of me to state that. Because “theoretically” if it’s “true” love and it was “meant to be” then, yes, love could be that easy.

But maybe for those who… don’t have time or patience to “hope” for their one true love to come along, then maybe me saying that won’t be so harsh?

Relationships are hard to keep up. Because I think people and life is always changing—for the worse or for the better, and interacting with another person so closely—getting to know them and learning to accept them or work around their fault is a lesson in itself. That there’s still so much more to learn from being with someone.

You could take the view that relationships are “trial and error.” You could take the view that there isn’t one person out there, and there is no easy happy ending, that’s fine. You have loved, was hurt and will love again. It’s in the “love again” do you continue to gain.

In conclusion, there is truth in [returned] love (“True love” is another issue).  There is a sense of reality in returned love.  Returned love isn’t as easy as it may seem. In fact, it is easier to give up on love than to try. I think that there are things to learn within returned love to keep a relationship going. There are obstacles to overcome in a relationship in order to get to a “happy ending.” It’s in the “trying” do we accomplish within love.

There. I hope that gives a sense of hope to some people. I know it has in me.